You're narcissistic. Yes, you read that correctly. You're narcissistic, but so am I, your mother, partner, best friend, and neighbor. Perhaps when you hear the word narcissist, you think of someone who believes they're pretty great and doesn't care what anyone else thinks. And while these are some manifestations of narcissism, the experience of narcissism in human beings is fascinatingly nuanced.   

Overall, the word has a pejorative implication and, thanks to pop psychology, has become a catch-all to describe anyone who possesses higher-than-average confidence and treats people carelessly. Unfortunately, these stereotypes fail to tell us what exactly narcissism is or what it does to us or others when it occurs in everyday life.   

Well-versed in the Enneagram personality model and knowing that there are no one-size-fits-all criteria for identifying narcissism, Sterlin L. Mosley realized there had to be at least nine variations of narcissistic personality disorder. The Narcissist in You and Everyone Else is about the convergence between the Enneagram personality types, the three primary instinctual drives, and narcissism.   

We all have a touch of one of the 27 subtypes of narcissism described in this book within us. So maybe you're not so enamored with yourself that you can't stop staring at yourself in the mirror, but who among us hasn't become so singularly focused on an aspect of ourselves or our experience that we've lost sight of the world around us? Narcissism isn't in and of itself a problem but rather an occasional condition of modern life in an individualistic society.   

Explore narcissistic tendencies that may appear in your own life and learn how to challenge those tendencies to continue to push for greater compassion and empathy in your everyday life and those around you. This book's purpose isn't to tell you how wrong, terrible, or defective you or anyone else with narcissistic tendencies are (which, remember, is all of us). Instead, this book is meant to create better understanding and forgiveness for ourselves and others.